Why Being Single Really Isn’t That Bad
Last week, I spent exactly 44 minutes and 36 seconds crying on the phone to my mother that I was going to end up alone. No, really I did and this has been a reoccurring conversation over the past year. In 2017, I rekindled a relationship with a toxic ex, dated someone I knew there was absolutely no future with, and lowered my standards because I was lonely.
I’ll admit, I’m extremely hard on myself in general and could definitely use a chill pill or two with a glass of Pinot on the side. But after I hung up with my mom and spent a few hours (okay, 45 minutes) at the gym, I realized that being single didn’t suck as much as I initially thought. I mean, I was just able to spend 45 uninterrupted minutes doing exactly what I wanted to do. No one rushing me to hurry up or invading my personal time with an obnoxious thread of texts.
Being single equals freedom – freedom to go where I want, hang out with who I want, eat what I want and do what I want. In ten years, I want to look back on these days and remember how awesome they were instead of how I pouted, stomped my feet and considered myself less of a person because I didn’t have a steady boyfriend.
After these past few months of “pre-Mark Darcy” Bridget Jones status, I am:
- learning new things
- being consistent with going to the gym and sticking to a healthy diet
- realizing how important self-care and self-love is
- meeting new and interesting people
- connecting with old friends and acquaintances
- reading all of the books I bought and never opened
- feeling really, really, really good about myself *snaps fingers*
In the past 28 years, I’ve learned enough lessons, cried enough tears, and doubted myself one too many times that I can’t not share what I’ve learned.
This blog initially started out with a travel and lifestyle focus, documenting my adventures in San Diego, CA. Then it shifted to an accessory/fashion guide to compliment my Etsy store. And as for now, it’ll be my own little online library of stories, tips and advice for smart, beautiful women (like you!) navigating the very confusing, very frustrating worlds of dating and feeling good in your own skin. Welcome.