3 Ways To Protect Your Positive
Whether it’s a pessimistic friend or a manipulative co-worker, people who can drain the life out of you come in all different shapes and sizes. And I would know. I’ve been that pessimistic friend who wakes up a total grump, goes through the day a total grump, and curls up in bed a total grump. I’m not going to lie to you – some days, I fall back into that trap (with permanent RBF, it’s hard not to) but I’ve learned that how you feel and present yourself is a choice and something you consistently work on, not something you’re pre-destined to be forever.
The next time you’re dealing with a situation or someone who is bringing you down (whether intentional or not), remind yourself of these 3 things to hang onto your happiness and shield yourself from bad energy:
- 98% of the time, another persons actions have absolutely, positively nothing to do with you: Is that statistic true? Probably not. But I will tell you that in many of my experiences, the way that person treated me was a direct reflection of how they felt about themselves at that time. Sometimes, when people are hurting, they want others to hurt too. So the next time you find yourself on the receiving end of disrespect or anger, take a second and really listen to the words coming out of their mouth. Chances are they projecting their own feelings and insecurities about themselves onto you in an attempt to get rid of the heaviness that has been weighing on them.
- The worst day of your life will never actually be the worst day of your life: I can honestly pinpoint a handful of moments over the last 5 years where I for sure thought my life was over, that I dug myself a hole so deep I’d never get out. Bad breakups, toxic friendships, crummy jobs – have all come and gone and I’m still here, still breathing, and still standing. You wanna know what the worst day of your life will be? The day you’re not here, that you stop breathing, and are no longer standing. Not that time you got a bad haircut that made you look like Johnny Depp in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, not the time you found out your ex was cheating on you with their co-worker, and definitely not the time you got a speeding ticket for going 46 in a 45. If it’s something that won’t even cross your mind in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes thinking about it. Refocus your energy into something that will promote growth, not stall it.
- Go looking for opinions and you’ll only find judgement: Recently, I’ve learned that asking for advice or opinions from others only opens the door for unwarranted criticism later on. This is something I’m 100% still working on but I’ve found that I never really feel good after getting advice from other people. Either I feel crappy because I didn’t take their “good” advice or I feel crappy that I did take it because I didn’t have enough confidence in myself and my intuition. Bottom line, it’s simple – If people don’t know your business, they can’t make you feel any which way about it.
So the next time you’re feeling like it’s the end of the world, go to the mirror, do your best Mr. Chow impression and ask yourself ,”…but did you die?”. If anything, I’ve learned it’s good for a quick laugh.